Can't We All Just Get Along pt 4: The Watcher

We sometimes find ourselves being this person...especially with all the noise that is out there. Usually, the Watcher can be found in the dead center of the spectrum. They feel stuck. They feel as if their voice doesn't matter...so they sometimes just keep their mouth shut. They also feel like they may get ripped to shreds if they did raise their voice. No, this person isn't trying to be weak. In fact, they are probably one of the strongest of people. Why do they come across as weak or wishy-washy though? Because they feel as if both extreme sides are complete goofballs and if they do open their mouths, the only thing that would come out would be an expletive-filled SHUT UP directed at BOTH sides of the argument.

They aren't necessarily trying to be silent, yet they come across like that all the time. You will usually find them watching those around them, and seeking out the one whose voice is being silenced or mistreated. Why is this? Because they are actually quite secure in what they believe in. They do not want to engage with the noise on each side. So they watch. They are looking. They are seeking ways to make an impact. They are seeking people with which they can have plenty of room to just be themselves around, and that room is room enough for disagreements and all the questions. They are looking for a conversation that is safe enough for deep questions to be asked and for answers to be left there on the table.

Today, if this is you. Let me encourage you...USE YOUR VOICE. Know what you stand for, and be someone who reaches across the table, seeking to understand. As you do, you will become a safe place for people you're in a relationship with. You will be someone who allows maturity to set the tone in being able to have friends who are both like-minded AND completely opposite of you. This is NOT compromise, it's safety.

So, maybe a little less silence mixed with a little more intentionality will help you and me both thrive in a divided world, and, who knows, we may just set the example.

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